Plan Q

Well plan A and B didn't workout a long time ago, so I've been trying to adapt ever since. I think I'm on about plan Q now. The next plan is to move back to Louisiana when this school year ends. I originally came to Houston in November when the last straw fell on the camel's back. I didn't really know what we were going to do. I think moving back to Louisiana will help, because Brody and I can work together to decide what to do. Brody and I had talked about divorcing and thought the best way to be divorced would be if we both lived in the same town, so the kids wouldn't go through such a big transition when switching homes and things like that. Plus, we both want to be very involved in their lives and still be the best parents we can be by working together. We (mostly me) feel like Texas is a great place to raise a family, especially because I have such a strong, great family here, economy is good, cost of living is great, strong communities, good education, and so on. We tried looking for a job here for Brody, but we couldn't find the right job. Brody has a great job in Louisiana right now, so I think we will just let him continue working there and fulfill his contract while I continue pursuing my education degree. We would then move to Houston when the time is right, and we could both move. I'm going to have my own place in Louisiana, although I'm sure I'll be in Houston all the time. So that is the plan for now, or at least plan Q.
Baylor and Chase are doing well. We stay active, happy, and busy with friends, family, and school during the day, but sometimes at night and especially after not seeing his dad for a few days Baylor gets sad and asks a lot of questions about us being separated. I've been reading a lot of books and getting advise on how best to handle this change with children. I actually think, given the situation we are doing pretty well, but everyday brings new challenges. I'm just doing everything the best way I know how and relying on the Lord for the rest.

Takin' the enemy out of frienemy

This is Baylor and his favorite cousin Brecken. They have not always been like this. They have tried to be friends for a long time, but every time they got together to play they just ended up fighting and acted more like enemies. They recently decided to take the enemy out of frienemy and are now really great friends. They don't fight anymore. They just play and have a great time together. Brecken told his mom that he liked playing with Baylor now, because Baylor is nice and acts like Jesus now.

Mutton Bustin'

If you aren't familiar with what Mutton Bustin' is, it is basically kids riding a sheep rodeo style. This is what it looked like.


We went to the Houston Rodeo this week with some friends and had a great time. Baylor got to go Mutton Bustin' while we were there. Baylor's ride didn't look as bad as the ones in the video, so no need to turn me in for child abuse. He just rolled off the side of the sheep after 1-2 seconds. It was hilarious. He loved it. He happily jumped to his feet after falling off and waved to the crowd.

What's Happening

I enrolled Baylor in preschool last month. I still debate almost everyday with myself if I should start him in kindergarten this year. That is the main reason I just put him preschool. If I decide to start him in kindergarten he will have had preschool for a few months before starting, as opposed to not having gone at all. He has learned a lot from me teaching him at home, but I thought he needed to learn about the structure of school before he started kindergarten. I'm his mom so of course I think he is sooo smart, and I think will always catch onto new concepts quickly. He is big and tall for his age. He also has a strong personality, so I don't think he would have a problem being the youngest in his class. My main reason for considering holding him back is because he will literally be the youngest in his class. The cut off is September 1st, and his birthday is August 31st. Would it bother him to be the youngest, because he is a boy and the girls will all be older, will he be at a huge disadvantage, will it bother him to be the last to drive, date, etc? Even though he is beyond ready to start this year and knows more than what is expected, do I hold him back, because I'm not sure what will happen, and how he would feel about it in the future? I don't know, I'm think I want to start him this year, but I'm not sure. I just hope to have a happy, well adjusted, mature young man when all is said and done...is that expecting too much :)
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What's new with Chase? Chase has really grown up a lot lately. He is starting to talk pretty well and not as much like a baby, which makes me kind of sad because he is my baby. He is still as sweet as can be. In fact, he is so cute and sweet I couldn't get myself to take his pacifier away from him until this last month. He was obsessed with his pacifier, and i just couldn't find it in my heart to take something he loved so much from him. He loved it so much I was starting to think he would be taking it college with him, because he was never going to get rid of it. He took the best naps and slept awesome through the night because that was when he had his pacifier. I thought I had a flawless method to getting rid of the pacifier. That method is to cut it and when it was broken the kid won't want it and would throw it away. It worked like a charm with Baylor, but not with Chase. I did it with Chase's pacifier, and he did throw it away, but later found another one, so when I cut the other one he wouldn't throw it away. It was totally broken and didn't work or have suction, but he wouldn't take it out of his mouth. Eventually I did get him to throw it away, but since then he hasn't taken good naps, because it's just not the same without it.
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As for Brody and I, we are both doing well. I am still in Houston, and he is still in Lake Charles. We meet every weekend, so he can be with the boys. We are still separated and don't know what we are doing. We have decided to go to counseling again, and see if that helps us with our decision. We have a lot to do and think about before we decide. We want to make sure we will do what is best for both of us and our boys. So for now this is what we are doing.