Friday, April 8, 2011

Plan Q

Well plan A and B didn't workout a long time ago, so I've been trying to adapt ever since. I think I'm on about plan Q now. The next plan is to move back to Louisiana when this school year ends. I originally came to Houston in November when the last straw fell on the camel's back. I didn't really know what we were going to do. I think moving back to Louisiana will help, because Brody and I can work together to decide what to do. Brody and I had talked about divorcing and thought the best way to be divorced would be if we both lived in the same town, so the kids wouldn't go through such a big transition when switching homes and things like that. Plus, we both want to be very involved in their lives and still be the best parents we can be by working together. We (mostly me) feel like Texas is a great place to raise a family, especially because I have such a strong, great family here, economy is good, cost of living is great, strong communities, good education, and so on. We tried looking for a job here for Brody, but we couldn't find the right job. Brody has a great job in Louisiana right now, so I think we will just let him continue working there and fulfill his contract while I continue pursuing my education degree. We would then move to Houston when the time is right, and we could both move. I'm going to have my own place in Louisiana, although I'm sure I'll be in Houston all the time. So that is the plan for now, or at least plan Q.
Baylor and Chase are doing well. We stay active, happy, and busy with friends, family, and school during the day, but sometimes at night and especially after not seeing his dad for a few days Baylor gets sad and asks a lot of questions about us being separated. I've been reading a lot of books and getting advise on how best to handle this change with children. I actually think, given the situation we are doing pretty well, but everyday brings new challenges. I'm just doing everything the best way I know how and relying on the Lord for the rest.

10 comments:

Jason and Sarah Nelson said...

A couple things...First of all, I miss you!! I wish we still lived close so that our little chillins could hang out. Second, I really admire you, you are so strong and always so positive and determined to do the right thing. Your little kiddos are lucky to have such an amazing woman to call mom.

The Gardner's said...

I agree with Sarah. You are amazing and your kids are so lucky to have you. I'm sorry you have to go through this and try and explain to your little ones what is happening. You all are in our thoughts and prayers!

Malinda said...

You are amazing. I agree with the other comments. Your kids are pretty luck to have you. Hope the transitions goes smooth.

Hawkins Family said...

Love you Stacey. I hope things go as smoothly as possible. Next time we visit Texas I would live to see if we could get together! How far is Houston from your place in Louisiana?

Molly said...

Your kids have grown up so much, they are such little cuties! Good luck with school! Stacey, I agree with Sarah...you are so strong and amazing! I am so sorry you are going through this right now!

Jon. Jamie. Ethan. Lynsi. Katie. said...

Stacey! I think the WORLD Of you! :) I really do! I hope that you always know what a wonderful mother you are! I am sure that your kids realize how much both their Mommy and Daddy love them.

Plan Q. :) I wish you the best with everything and am forever praying for you and your sweet family.

Charlene Johnson said...

Stacey - so sorry you have to go through this right now. You are all in our prayers. And AMEN with what everyone else is saying on here - you're freakin' AWESOME and we love ya!

Justin and Stephanie said...

So I know that plan Q probably wasn't in the original plans, but I have to be honest, I am pretty dang excited to have you back in LA! I can't wait to have such an awesome neighor! You are an amazing woman!

The Maxfield's said...

Sorry to hear that guys. We sure miss you both. You've got the cutest kids... I can't believe how big they're getting. We're having our 4th tomorrow morning...yikes! You'll be in our thoughts and prayers. Wish you were still around.

Dan and Dee said...

Stacy, Plan R--recover, meaning, take care of yourself, stay happy, be strong, and I will be praying for you to be able to finish your education, juggle being a single mom, and that all will be well for you. As always, wishing the best for you b/c you are as mentioned, a deserving wonderful woman!